Why I’ll no longer label myself a bad mom. - Porsha Carr Blog

Why I’ll no longer label myself a bad mom.

Hi friends,
Today’s post isn’t sponsored, it isn’t a rant or anything or at least I don’t think it’s sort of just like me venting to all of you from one parent to another. 
These last few weeks getting ready for the holidays have honestly kicked my ass. It seems like ever since after Thanksgiving I just can’t seem to catch a break. Where do I even began? Ivy had Jersey day at preschool I put it on my planner but then totally forgot about it. I mean how can you forget about something that’s on your planner? I have no clue.. but it’s not like she actually missed Jersey day. Because she was sick so she didn’t even go to school that day. But for some reason, I’m still mad at myself about it. Fast forward to a few weeks later Ivy comes home with a ton of homework apparently over Thanksgiving break they were supposed to be doing it and I had no idea. So two school fails back to back. Then another mom fail, my husband took the girls to ballet for me because I had to run a few errands and what do you know for the first time ever Aria decides to dance with her class. Aria has been doing ballet for two months now and has never actually danced with her class because she’s was too scared. So the one night I decide not to go she dances! Incredible right? Oh but I’m not done yet. Another night of ballet fails. I decide not to take my diaper bag with me (something I never do by the way) then and what happens? Aria pee’s all over herself. Luckily I had extra undies but no extra clothes so we improvised and used her jacket as a dress. Point is I’ve been totally failing at mom life lately and not afraid to admit that. After all these incidents happened I was so hard on myself. 

Your a bad mom” “you suck” “get it together,” I told myself. But then I thought of my girls healthy, fed, smart, not caring a damn about any of those mom fails and I realized I’m not a bad mom, I don’t suck, and I don’t always have to have it all together. I’m not a perfect human and I make mistakes. I’m a planner and when things don’t go my way I get down on myself, especially when it comes to being a mom. It’s so much pressuring trying to raise tiny humans to become decent adults. Being a mom is so stressful. It’s not all Pinterest, planners, and perfect Instagram photos. It’s rough and it takes a ton of work. On those days where I have mom fails, it would seem like the end of the world. But I’m not worrying anymore because it’s not the end of the world. My girls are happy. They’re happy as hell and sometimes randomly throughout the day, Ivy says to me “you’re the best mommy ever.” and Aria says to me “your so pretty mommy.” they might even throw in an “I love you.” and at those moments all is right with the world again. 

Point is no matter if my kids are 2 or 20 I'm always going to make some kinda mistake(s) as a parent and that’s fine. I'll learn from it and I'll better myself. Because I'll never stop learning, even though my kids think I know it all or have it all together and I don’t. To them, I am a hero. To them, I am mommy finger. To them, I am the best mommy ever. So why would I continue to mommy shame myself and label myself as a bad mom when I make human mistakes? I shouldn't, I won't.

So if you’re a mom or even a dad reading this and you parent shame yourself that ends now! Let this blog be a reminder that you will make another mistake because you are human but you are doing the best you can I promise. 

Most importantly don’t ever forget that your little one loves you unconditionally no matter what.

Thanks for reading friends.

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